After our first full week of 2016, I have realized something: It’s all about perspective.
One of our New Year’s goals was to build a big bookcase for our living room, that way we could clear some of the clutter and get rid of the 3-4 little bookcases we’ve acquired over time. We started our project last Sunday. Sometimes marriage is about working things out. So we sat down and did some major drawing which we drew over and had little side drawings and we argued about how tall, how wide, if we want doors on the front, and all the little minor details. It was slightly chaotic, but we worked it out by drawing some more so we could both understand each other…we may both be visual learners! Haha!!!
I told Chris I would like to have it done by the end of the week. And if you don’t know our family, that’s a bit of a tall order. Often we will start on things and leave them half finished. I can’t stand it, but often the projects being done go beyond my skills and abilities, so I am the cheerleader for them! Well, here it is Sunday evening. One week has past. And during this week, unexpected things happened.
- Migraines (although I do expect them now, I never know when they’re going to hit)
- Sickness (All of a sudden, everyone started getting sore throats and sinus colds. Even though, I have been lucky enough not to catch it! Thank you, Jesus!)
- The Weather….which is most of the time unpredictable. Most of the week was cold and cloudy, and with Chris being sick, I didn’t want to send him out into the garage where it is as cold as the outside!
So yesterday (Saturday) we were able to knock out a big chunk of things. We had to get some things done in the office because one of the work trucks decided to break down on Friday and we weren’t able to get all the work we needed to get done finished. But then, Chris starts measuring, cutting, routeing, and working hard on this thing! I love to see my man work! He’s pretty awesome. I helped where I could. I did some varnishing. Then I cleaned up around the house, made an awesome pot roast, did dishes, replaced the kitchen light bulbs, set a couple of mousetraps, and burned our Christmas tree! It was a very productive day!
Today (Sunday), I woke up with a migraine that last until 11 or 11:30. We had Bible study at 2. And then Chris’s brothers randomly volunteered to help us work on the book case! So they are out there now, even though this has been the worst day for weather with the super wind and the rain and snow. I love it when family comes to help without us asking! It makes my heart smile!
Anyway, I said all this to say this: Yes, the goal was to get it done in a week. No, it won’t be finished by tonight. Especially since varnishing takes 24 hours to dry. But instead of getting upset over not achieving a goal at the exact time you want it achieved, you can look for the joy and the positive aspects of the situation:
- Brothers get to spend time together, helping one another. There can never be enough of that!
- Because the brothers are all working together, I get to have time to blog and clean around the house!
- No, the project won’t get done in a week. But it will get done. And although the living room may look like a construction zone, it won’t be that way for much longer!
- The migraine went away. They have been quite sporadic lately. Coming and going frequently, but not lasting a whole day like they normally do.
I have an amazing husband who takes great care of me. Since I had a migraine this morning and felt like doing nothing but sitting on the couch until it went away, I didn’t have time for a shower. So I just through a sweater and jeans on. I thought my hair looked awful so I put on a silly hat. Chris complimented me on how cute I looked and decided to put a silly hat on as well. He sure made me smile!!!
It’s time that we stopped moping around. It’s time we stopped seeing all the bad in everything and everyone and stopped dwelling on it . “Rejoice in the Lord always. Again, I say rejoice!”(Philippians 4:4) We must CHOOSE to find the positive–the joy in everything! It’s definitely not easy at first. But once you start making choosing joy a habit, it will come more naturally over time.
So there it is peeps! It’s all about perspective!
OH, and here’s a picture of me and Chris in our silly hats this morning!