This was the first day we met in person. We were hiking to Flat Lick Falls! This is our first picture together.
Chris and I were two different people in two different places, who would have never met had it not been for something called the internet. Yes, I know. Cliche, but it’s real life. Totally out of both of our characters, as we both would have never joined any online dating website without the help of some extenuating circumstances, we just happened upon each other by a quick browse. A smile was sent. A message returned. From there, well, you know how the story goes…or do you?
I was living in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere, Kentucky, and had a job at a drug rehabilitation center. (Many adventures there!) However, I was alone. Except for God, and a few people who I saw at my workplace and at church each week, it was just me. I was away from my family (God made the job possible right when I needed it, so I moved because it was a job where I lived). It was a job where I basically had to start life over. So, it got lonely. And although I tried to make the best of it and even had a positive outlook most of the time, I got depressed from time to time. (Winter was the worst!)
In February 2013, I was in my room sleeping, when all of a sudden, I had a crazy amazing and awesome dream that I was in Heaven and I was getting married to Jesus! I can’t even explain all of the intensity of that dream, but it was AWESOME. So naturally, I woke up with marriage on my mind. However, I didn’t know anyone who was even a potential for marriage in the future, so I tried to wave it away and focus on the day ahead. But soon, the feeling and urge to be married became to overwhelming. After all, I knew that I wanted to be married one day. I wanted to be the perfect wife, and to take care of and support my husband, whoever he was! I had also prayed about it immensely. God pointed me to the verse Psalm 37:4 that says “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart!” I WAS delighting myself in the Lord! I was more in love with the Lord than ever! I mean, I was having dreams of MARRYING the Lord! haha! SO I ended up online looking at wedding dresses. Let me make it known here and now, that I am not super girly and looking at wedding dresses just for the heck of it was never something I would really do, but yet, there I was. After an hour and a half of looking, I was ready to give up. I thought What are you doing, Michelle? You don’t even have a man! You are wasting your time. But you know what? I wasn’t wasting my time. I was believing in God’s word that he was going to give me the desires of my heart. I clicked over one more page and there it was. MY DREAM DRESS. I was like “WHOA.” And even better, it was 50% percent off at the time.
So I bought it.
Yes, I bought the dress.
No, I am not crazy, I am a believer.
Fast forward 2 months.
One day in April 2013, I was sitting in the living room with some volunteers and some students and we were talking about relationships. Only one of the people in the room were married, so the rest of them were complaining: “Where are our men at? We tired of waiting!” So with a smile on my face and a joke in my heart, I simply stated, well girls, sometimes you just have to go look for them yourselves! So let’s take a look! I got out the laptop and logged onto Christianmingle.com and joined up to create a profile and “go looking” for men. We all had a lot of laughs that night. But that joke turned into to something serious–and fast.
In that next month, I went into the chat rooms and checked out some profiles. And some….less desirable people…were checking me out. I can’t believe how many old men just wanted to marry a younger woman to have babies. I was about fed up with the site. I could see it wasn’t going anywhere. But God knows a lot more that I do, and I am thankful that he does! It was in the first couple of weeks in May that the Wedding dress I ordered in February came in the mail, (from China, of course, but it was only $225, and shipping was free!) The next week or two, I was browsing through profiles and came to one that was HUGE. Like 3 pages long. I do not like to read, and yet, I could not stop reading this man’s profile. He seemed so genuine, so real, so not like the others. His profile picture was him on a jet ski with his sister in a life jacket, smiling a crooked, yet adorable smile. So I sent him a smile. Then he sent me a message.
We met the first day of July, after chatting a month and a half over the internet and on the phone. He was from Ohio, close to the West Virginian border, and I was in Southeastern Kentucky. A 6 hour drive. He drove down to meet me. We met in a Walmart parking lot. As I was driving to this Walmart, I was on the phone with Chris, asking him, what car he drove and where he was parked. “Oh, you’ll see me.” He said. I turned at the light to the Walmart parking lot, and I noticed a man standing on his car with a camera. Yep, it was Chris!
It was a fun couple of days. We went fishing, hiking, waterfall climbing, ice cream eating, card playing, and had an absolute blast. This man was amazing. He was everything he said he was. And he radiated Jesus. I mean, his love for the Lord was so evident, you had to see Jesus before you saw Chris. I just couldn’t believe a man like him existed. But he was here, right in front of me. Crazy…
He left for Ohio, and came back with his two sisters, Rachael and Emily, the next time he visited. Then I went and met his family. And they were awesome!!! I mean, I am an odd person and I don’t really fit in in a whole lot of niches, but it was like I was part of the family already. We had a blast! And I could totally be myself around these people! In short, God rocked my world. The Bible said that “God sets the lonely in families.”
I am living proof of that.